i also like to tell them that we will be covering a lot of information during our meeting and if i do not cover an area of their concern, we can definitely address it as needed.
The overbearing 3rd party is an interesting dilemma. Usually this type of person thinks he knows it all … but isn't. That person is obviously part of the decision process so offending him/her will keep the student from applying. The person applying could also be offended if the person they trusted for advice is treated rudely. One good way to take the steam out of the third party is to ‘mirror’ his energy and tone of voice, and to ask questions. Every time the loudmouth begins a sentence say directly to him, “___(First name)___ That is a very good point!!! (without hesitation, turn directly to the student and say) _____ How do you feel about that? (or some other open ended question). If this is done in a sincere manner, with any luck at all, the loudmouth may actually think you are on his side and help you do your job. Questions are the best way to direct a conversation.
No i really dont have any other ideas at this time
