Everybody has a negative co-worker in their department. They may not be so negative everyday, but they have their moments. I make a conscience effort not to be negative, but on the rare ocacasion, I do have my moments. I will usually try to find one of my more understanding co-workers and take a moment to vent my frustration so I can move on. I find it amazing how much pressure can be relieved by the simple act of venting. Once the frustration is gone, I find it much easier to be productive and happy in my endeavors. I am sure the students are much appreciative of me not being so bitchy too. One thing I have noticed is that moods and attitudes are contagious and infectious. They spread rapidly, so make sure what you are spreading is good.
Deborah,
Thank you for this post. Nothing is more effective at changing behavior than being positive. Positive behavior and positive group speak can really make a difference for our students.
Being positive is essential. I like the Appreciative Inquiry theory where you find common dreams and goals amoung people and use this information to change behavior.
Negative co-workers are a real challenge. Negative folks often look to others for validation of their negative perspective. Misery loves company.
The best way to address a negative co-worker is to respond to their negativity with a positive comment or action. If that does not work for you in that situation, at least say "I disagree" and end that part of the discussion. The less agreement you give the negative individual, the less likely he or she is to verbalize the negativity.
The trick is to find 11 positive people to counteract the one negative person. The campus needs to focus on positive "group speak."
I worked next to a technician for awhile that everyday had some type of complaint. After hearing this for a few hours I became bitter myself.
I also keep a positive attitude. It is hard to keep it sometimes when there is negativity in the office. Most times students are coming in or out of the offices and often hear things that are being said. I bring it to the negative person's attention that he or she does not know who is in earshot, so it is important to practice "shut mouth grace" sometimes. Also, I try to find a positive aspect from negative talk. Eventually, the negative person comes around and starts to think about what I said and how it does effect everyone in the school/organization.
yea I just listen to what they have to say, then if I feel its needed I ask them to explain why they feel this way,and most of the time they realize what they were negitive about was silly.not worth getting worked up over.life is to short to always be with a negitive attitude.
I am way to often the negitive person. I have worked very hard to overcome this by surounding myself with people like you. Nigitivity breads negitivity. By filling me negitive space with positive people, I fill more empowered to think of the bright side. Sheri, don't let us bring you down, your attitude is a great help.
