Agnes, We can separate stress in to bad stress and positive stress. The negative stress is usually some trauma that relates directly to the emotions for you immediately. Health, accident or loss of life are extreme negative stresses. The stress in growth in you our your family that are usually personal or family achievements through hard work do not go without stress. I know that when my wife watched each of our children grow up and finally go onto to college was stressful. It was a happy moment but also a moment of loss. Dr. Gary Carlson