Thomas, I don't think you should worry about being honest in the kind of situation you describe. Saying (for example), "Howard Stern is known for his sharp retorts and his ability to argue loudly and clearly with his guests and his critics. Have you thought about how you would handled that kind of demand on your communication skills?", is not a problem Saying,"I think you may be trouble in reaching that goal" is different than saying, "You will never reach that goal. You need to change your major" are two different things. Dr. Jane Jarrow