William,
I agree. We always want to be honest with students about challenges we see on the horizon, but the decision as to whether or not to proceed must be left to the student. We give that deference (and that respect) to students without disabilities. We assume that they are capable of making their own decisions, whether or not we agree with them. We need to make sure we provide that same freedom to students with disabilities and not limit them by OUR expectations.
Dr. Jane Jarrow