Conflict at work
It has recently come to my attention, and especially after almost completeing this course, that I am letting a couple people at my work get the "best" of me. A constant "stressor" to me, when I observe them doing absolutely "nothing" almost all day, and are receiving a paycheck!! I am learning to avoid going out into the hall or past the cafeteria...however, it is still a huge stessor to me. I am going to try to use the STRESS LIST. I will keep you posted.
Exactly: simply ignoring them allows them to stress others out, and makes the whole organization worse. By ignoring them you become their greatest ally.
To reduce stress: I surround myself with positive energy people and stay positive. As for all the negative people in my life – I just pray for them and still stay positive. I challenge myself to have a great day everyday and try not to let anyone take it away from me. It helps to stay organized, plan ahead and think about how you are going pass up the ones with the negative attitudes.
I too am dealing with a couple of the same type of people! It seems the only job they do well around here is involve themselves in other peoples business and start rumors. It is starting to feel like I work at an alternative high school rather than a college.
Amy, So true! Love your thinking. We've got to stay positive to be productive. A lot of times, that means surrounding ourselves with positive people. Sounds like you've done just that!
Dr. Melissa Read
Bad apples make the whole room sour, illiminate them as soon as possible. Everyone will be better off, and sooner.
Avoid the bad apples. Teaching is hard enough as it is; the last thing we need is to be around constant negative criticism and complaining or the slackers. Keep the professional distance and know that at the end of each day, when you leave you know you did your job and you did it well. Be proud of what you do,it takes too much energy to complain anyways!
I found out the hard way that one needs to keep it professional at work. I thought venting with co-workers about shared problems would help us all be able to deal with it better, till my boss quoted some of my comments back to me that I thought were shared in confidence. Of course I don't know which of my "trusted" co-workers is the "spy", but there is now such a level of distrust that there is even more stress in the work space. I feel sick even at the thought of going to work.
I feel that it is really important to keep your stressers minimal with conflict at work. keeping fair judgement and staying professional is key.
I believe keeping an open line of comunication is a big deal some times people think the other person understands what is going on but unless you actually tell them how are they going to know. I find getting together out side of work for lunch or coffee seems to work really well.
Yes, this one key is very important for this case. we must at all time not allow our personal feeling or emotions cloud our professional judgement. If we can keep it on that level we shouldn't go wrong.
Pamela, Yes, sometimes it's most beneficial to keep interactions with our coworkers professional. It's a shame, as often these people have a lot in common with us. Striking the right balance between building healthy relationships with coworkers and not crossing the line can be key to success.
Dr. Melissa Read
The way I eliminate that is to keep it professional with my coworkers.
