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How can you approach co-workers when they are at the same position as you, but you feel you have an effective way adn get results?
Denisse,
this really is a key idea, being asked for thoughts. Too often we are too eager to jump in & give advice where we have not been asked.
Ryan Meers, Ph.D.
When you are approached for your thoughts, that would be the best opportunity to give your opinion (assuming you have given careful thought about how and what you want to say before you offer those opinions)and utimatlely use some of the coaching techniques at the same time.
JUAN,
yes the positive influence aspect is a great one to consider. Making sure that you approach the situation as a co-worker & friend, not a superior.
Ryan Meers, Ph.D.
You could become a positive influence with co-workers. Sometimes people are open to suggestions and could work if the two of you could tackle a common situation. In a special project you could bring another person to understand your way of doing things.
Yes, I think we need to make sure that when we coach, the other person is ready for it & want it. If they ask for our opinion, it is fine to give that, but we need to make sure that is all we are giving at that time unless they ask for more.
Ryan
When people ask for my opinion, that is what they get. And sometimes I end up coaching at same time which is what they did not want.
This would be best addressed by presenting your way to your supervisor and if they agree they would pass it along to others.
Sometimes you simply have to realize that it is inappropriate to intervene. This can cause some seriously "stepped on" toes and could damage office relationships.
Also, what if you are not correct in your thoughts that you have a "better" way? This could ultimately end up sacrificing your position as well as the individual you attemed to coach.
Allison Leonard
Very carefully, is the short answer. This is a situation where you want to approach them demonstrating that you want to help them be successful. You definitely do not want to come across as having it all figured out or in any way condescending.
Another consideration here is checking to see if they are achieving results with their way or method? If they are having success, maybe just not as much as you or maybe they're not as effective, but they are getting "good enough" results, I would not say anything. Now, if they are struggling you have an opportunity to help, but make sure it is done in a spirit of humility.
Remember, "it's dangerous to want something more for someone else than they want it for themselves."
Ryan