If I get the impression from the other person that my opinion was not welcomed, I would try to transition back to small talk. Starting there I would try to find more mutual interest and try to start th relationship over from the beginning. However, I know that sometimes it is too late to start over.
This is something we see a lot Samantha. As Dr. Norris stated earlier, it's not uncommon to find a number of individuals jumping from small talk to opinions without establishing mutual interest. What might you do if you get a sense that you've offered your opinion too soon in a new relationship?
Margie, I agree with you. I am great at small talk and finding a mutual interest with people. It is not difficult for me to share things about myself with outhers. However, I sometimes find that I form an opinion in my mind too soon without really giving someone a chance.
Wonderful! Many people do that - jump to opinions too quickly. In addition, knowing where you are at in the communication hierarchy at any given point can help you take the time you need to really form a meaningful relationship (even on the phone).
I feel I am pretty good at most levels, but probably the one I would like to look at more is opinions. I need to be careful not to jump to an opinion about something too soon. If I do this, I would hinder moving onto the feeling level which is so important as it leads to the bonding. I will look at holding my opinions and keeping an open mind and to listen to the other person more objectively.
You're right, Victor. At times it can be difficult to make small talk with a student who doesn't seem interested. Knowing that small talk is important to getting to mutual interest, how might you handle this same situation differently next time?
small talk. I at times have a hard time making small talk with certain students. Sometimes we get the students who want to control the conversation and get upset when we try to start up small talk
Yes it can be challenging to find mutual interest however this is essential to moving forward. It's great that you realize this can be tough and perhaps can now see what you need to do (perhaps spending more time in small talk) before they give you the signal it's ok to move on. Great insight, Elaine!
I believe that the most challenging part of the communication hierarchy is the mutual interest stage. Not always will you have a mutual interest and it may become difficult to ralate to the other person. I plan on doing a bit more small talk before I take the next step up the communication hierarchy.
