That can be aggravating, Dianne. Being listened to is a powerful experience. It's great that you are aware of how it makes you feel. What then do you do in your conversations to ensure you are truly listening to others?
Very frustrated and all conversation ends due to the frustration
Awesome, Evelyn! Patience is so important when it comes to listening. Repeating back what you've heard can be a great way to demonstrate the fact that you've been listening to your students. I'm curious, how do you know when a person hasn't been listening to you? And to add to that, what have they done in the past to demonstrate that they will always come back to you for more information?
I always tried to be patience with the audience or a person, I always tried to repeat as many times as possible, I don't have regrets with the person that is not listening they will always comeback for an explanation.
It is a truly powerful experience to be listened to and unfortunately it doesn't seem to happen in all conversations. That can be a frustrating experience, Jason. It's great that you are aware of how it makes you feel and strive to ensure you are truly listening in your conversations. Keep up the good work!
Effective listening is such a powerful tool when you work with people, isn't it? It sounds like you make a real effort to ensure others have the opportunity to feel like they've been heard. Keep up the good work!
I feel annoyed and unimportant which tends to in turn make me angry. I get angry and then I am sad or upset. I would imagine that is why you should follow the golden rule, treat others as you would want to be treated. If you want to be listened to be a good listener.
I get mad. I will point out the fact to you as well. The worst is when I do it to others for the simple fact I get so mad when it is done to me.
Great approach, Tiffaney! I imagine that taking the time to "update" your conversation tends to have a positive influence on your interactions, am I right? Taking the time to repeat back to the student what you've heard throughout your conversation is a powerful skill to demonstrate that you're listening. Keep up the good work.
I feel frustrated when I have explained whatever and the person that is engaging me in converstaion says,"uh." That really bothers me so, I try to not to make who I'm listening to feel like I'm not listening. I like what I call,"update," in conversation. That means when I sense a break in the story I try to conver what was said so far and if I'm right we move forward with the conversation.
I feel unimportant. It has an impact on my self-worth. On the other hand, I have had conversations with people who really listened to me – even though it was the first time we met. It made me valuable and respected. It was actually uplifting! I don’t remember the exact conversation but I have a good memory of the person and hold them in high esteem.
Without a doubt, not being listened to can be a truly frustrating experience, John. Especially when you are seeking the advice or assistance of another person. Now imagine that you are a prospective student having the same experience with an admissions professional. How might your feeling of frustration help you in working with that prospective student?
it is frustrating it feels like you are wasting your time you feel like the person you are talking to doesn't really care about what you are saying or they do not care about truly helping you!
I stay fully engaged through every conversation so they know I am interested in what they have to say. I also repeat, rephrase, and reflect whenever possible. This is so they know I have truly been listening to them the entire time.
Without a doubt, not be listened to can be a frustrating experience, Samantha. Having someone truly listen to you can be a very powerful experience. Given that, what might you do to ensure that your students never feel as though you haven't listened to them?
It makes me very frustrated. Why did I even bother to state my opinion if no one listens to my thoughts. I try to listen to everyone when they speak to me as I do not want to make them feel as if I am not interested in their thoughts and feelings.
Yes it can be hurtful when you are putting effort and energy into a presentation and no one is listening. So how might you use this knowledge when it comes to you listening to your students?
I hurts when you are not being listened to about a topic. There you are standing up in front of people and you are looking striaght and eyes. As you are looking at the person you realize nobody is home. It is like you are looking right trough them and then I think why am I up here talking.
Again...great insight! Understanding how it feels to really be listened to is a catalyst to wanting to help students feel that way, too!
This is an interesting question, because noone feel good about not being heard or understood. There is a sense of frustration when this happens and I do know I would feel this if it happened. Knowing this, I would hope would make me more aware of others when they feel this way.
