Eva, I agree it can be frustrating when people don't listen. I'm curious, what techniques have you tried when it comes to listening?
Dr. Jean Norris
It's very frustrating when no one listens to you, its rude and thats the reason why I tried to listening to everyone.
Great point Sadiya. Being listened to is a wonderful experience and so it sounds like you take that into consideration when working with others and truly listening to what they are saying. Keep up the good work.
Dr. Jean Norris
It is disheartening. Everyone wants to be heard and feel as though they have a voice or insight to share with others. I am in a health coaching program and listening is one of the very first skills we were taught. In the beginning of the program, we would sit with someone, be in the moment, and really listen to them, all without interrupting. It was an amazing opportunity and it's interesting what you can end up seeing (and hearing) in the end.
Milagros,
Yes..that's not a good feeling at all is it? Given is, how might this awareness impact your listening with your students?
Dr. Jean Norris
When I feel that I am not being listened to I feel less important, disrespected and I will not trust that person or open up to them any longer.
Perla,
This is excellent! Do you find that it is hard to do this 100% of the time?
Dr. Jean Norris
Mostly frustrated or disappointed. It makes me feel as though what I have said is not important. This is why I practice active listening as much as I can, so the person I am listening to feels that what they have to say is important and I care to listen to them.
Chanquinta, thanks for sharing this. It sounds like you want to make sure you are communicating effectively. So now that you have this awareness, I wonder, what specifically do you want to improve?
Dr. Jean Norris
I'm typically detailed when I'm discussing something, to cover all bases. Therefore, it somewhat frustrates me when someone didn't listen. However, it also makes me evaluate what I discussed with them because I may need to improve in certain areas.
Claudette, thanks for sharing this. I'm sure your students appreciate that you listen to them and their concerns. I'm curious, what specifically do you do to engage with the students and make sure they know you are listening to them?
Dr. Jean Norris
When i'm listening to someone talking ,i' really pay attention.
When I have not been listened to I feel probably like everyone else does, frustrated. I try my hardest to shut everything else down when I am speaking to someone so I can give them my undivided attention. One to make sure I don’t miss anything second to make sure they know I am listening. It tends to go back to the Golden Rule as so many things do.
Michelle,
Thanks for sharing. Being listened to is truly a powerful experience and can impact an interaction or relationship in such a positive way. Knowing how it makes you feel when you are listened to can be a helpful reminder for how you want other to feel when interacting with you. Keep up the good work.
Shannon Gormley
It makes me feel important and like the person who listened to me really cares about my needs or wants to help me as a person,they are not just doing what they have to, so that i feel humored and will go away and leave them alone.
Elena,
Great observations. It can definitely be unpleasant when you are being ignored in an interaction with another person. Being able to recognize how it impacts you is wonderful awareness to have for future interactions. It gives you the opportunity to determine how you might respond if this happens in the future and what you will do to prevent this from happening to others.
Shannon Gormley
It depends on the other party, but it is unpleasant to be ignored and not paid attention to.
I agree Lorri. Now that you have this awarness, what are your plans when you are listening to others?
Shannon Gormley
It is very frustrating when a person is not listening to you. Especially when you are trying to explain something that needs to be heard before any changes can be made. I don't think anyone likes to be in this situation. It makes it so your needs are not being met. Lorri Brown
Julian, that is great awarness. Now that you understand how it feels to not be listened to, what will you do with your students to make sure they feel valued?
Shannon Gormley
