You have to let people know that you appreciate them taking the time to listen to what you have to say.
for me it makes me feel like what I hve to say is'nt inportant and how I feel has no value
I think just feel very bad when I speak with someone and I imagine that I did not hear or understand
You're right, Karen, it can be frustrating when you feel as though you haven't been listened to. Many find that having that awareness is helpful in practicing their own listening skills.
It is frustrating to feel that you have not been listened to. It sends the message that what you have said is not important.
I would agree, Richard. When another person doesn't offer the opportunity for you to be heard, it can certainly make us feel unimportant. How will you utilize this awareness with your students and others in your future conversations?
I feel like I am not important
Good points, Michael. It can be a frustrating and disappointing experience when you feel you've not been listened to by another person, especially if that person is important to you. It sounds like you adjust your approach when you feel a student isn't listening to you to gain a better understanding of where they're coming from. It's great to hear that you use that awareness to establish a different connection with your student.
I get to the point where I don't say anything. If there is a situation where I feel someone is not listening to me the next time i am in a situation with them I tend to just stay quiet. I feel that they aren't going to listen anyway. It make me feel like they don't value what I have to say so I figure why say anything. or they don't like what I have to say and they aren't going to take my advice anyway. If I feel a student isn't listening, i fell that I am not answering their questions and I need to ask them more questions to make sure I understand what they are asking.
Excellent observations, Tiffany. Being given the opportunity to be heard and safely share your opinions and values is a very powerful experience. It can help to be aware of how you feel when you are not heard to avoid doing the same to others.
When I feel that I have not been listened to, I feel unappreciated and that I am not important enough to be speaking. I want to be heard and be able to share my opinions and values with others. I feel I listen and pay attention to others, so it hurts when those people do not listen to me.
I'm glad that you've found the information in the course helpful, Connie. It sounds like you're using the information to improve your relationships both personally and professionally and that's great! And I'm sure that those individuals will certainly benefit by your desire to improve yourself and your relationships.
By being aware of your poor listening, you can work on being more considerate and compassionate towards not just your students, but everyone around you, including friends and family. This course is teaching me how to not just better myself, but how to better life for everyone around me! Thank you Shannon!
It hurts my feelings when I'm not listened to...no one likes to be ignored.
This is wonderful awareness to have Connie. It can be both disappointing and frustrating when you know you haven't been heard. This awareness can be helpful to consider if you find your listening limitations popping up in your conversations with students. How do you believe this awareness will help you to adapt your communication if this happens?
I hate being ignored or not being heard. It disappoints me and brings my spirits down when I'm trying to tell someone something, and I don't get the attention I should be getting.
Awesome insight, Andrew. Understanding how you might feel when you are not listened to can help you to avoid doing the same for your prospective students in the future. It sounds like you will use the insight you've gained in this course to help you when listening to your prospective students. I have no doubt they will appreciate your ability to truly listen to and hear them.
When I feel that I have not been listened to I immediately feel a separation between myself and the person whom I have tried to communicate with and also a distrust for that person.
I feel small and unimportant in that person's estimate and that makes me feel some resentment for how that person handled my trying to share something with them that I felt was important to me.
Knowing this can help me realize how important it is for each of my prospective students to feel as though they have been listened to and understood. Without this feeling there would be no trust or bond in the relationship going forward.
It can be disappointing to know that you're not being listened to by another person. What are some suggestions that you have to help people know when this is happening and adapt accordingly?
Personally, it gives me the notion that I am not as important as whatever else is going on with the person I am speaking with. It is definately not a good feeling.
