Knowing that you're not being listenened to can definately be a hurtful and disappointing experience. The important thing, Zulma, is that you are aware of what that experience feels like for yourself. That awareness is powerful in the fact that it can help you to make a different choice when you feel you might not be truly listening to another person.
I feel dissapointing and disrespected.
Plenty ticked...makes you feel like your time and responses are not important.
Absolutely Nora. Given that you know this, how might you make sure you aren't guilty of doing this to others?
THE PERSON WILL FEEL FRUSTRATED.
If you haven't been heard there are a lot of ways to bounce back. Lets face it, being negative isn't really going to solve any problems and will only lead to issues at work, home, with friends etc.
What you have to do is take a breather, clear your head of all the negativity and figure out how to be heard. It could be as simple as raisng your hand or finding a second of dead specae when people are talking.
You will always get your point across and make sure you show confidence when you speak.
Excellent awarenes, Byron. When you feel as though you haven't been heard, it can have a negative effect on your conversation and your relationship with the other individual. How do you overcome your defensiveness when you feel as though this has happened to you?
It's very frustrating when no one listens to you. You want to get your points and opinions across to others, ad when others interrupt you, its very frustrating and you feel inferior.
Eventually you start building walls and becoming very defensive.
That's a great place to start, Antigone. It sounds like you feel comfortable letting others know what you're seeing and feeling in the conversation. Good luck in your future communications - let me know how this approach helps.
I feel that what I would have to do to improve communication with another is to actually let them know that I don't feel that they are completely focused and listening to me 100%. I feel as though if I were to take that approach, then the other person would know exactly how I feel and how they can better their communication skills.
Excellent insight, Antigone. It sounds like you plan to use what you've learned in this course in your professional and personal life. What specifically might you do to improve communication with another when you feel as though you're not being listened to?
When people don't listen, it's irritating. Not only is it rude, but it makes you feel that what you have to say is not important at all. I listen a lot to my boyfriend and what he has to say, but when I want to talk about something, I always get the short end of the stick because he decides to bring up a different topic. So, I feel that he doesn't listen to me enough or care about what I want to talk about, especially if it's about work. I definitely think we need to work on our lines of communication. After these first three modules, I've learned so much and how I can be a better communicator.
You know so many Universities and Colleges offer public Speaking,maybe "Good Listening" should become a course as well. I think you can become even more successful in life if you can master both.
Great observation, Antonio. And I'd have to agree with you that it doesn't feel good to know that you are not being listened to. It can be helpful to remember what that feels like to help you to stay on track when you feel yourself getting distracted in a conversation.
I think the feeling for everyone is mutual you feel a little disrepected. Being ignored is never a good feeling especially of your speaking and sharing something you feel is important to you.
It's good that you're aware of how you respond when you don't feel as though you're being listened to, Nicolette. It's also good that you know that one of your listening limitations is when another person isn't listening to information that you believe will benefit them. I'm curious, how do you know that the information you want to share is beneficial to the other person?
I can feel myself getting anxious to ask more questions when I feel as though I am not being listened to. One of my biggest pet peeves is to not have others listen when I know what I am saying will be beneficial information to them.
I tend to shy away from that person or try to find my own route of getting things done. I get frustrated and I do not want to be bother with the person who is not listening to me. I also tend to keep my thoughts and questions to myself rather than express them.
It is defintely disappointing to know that you are not being listened to or heard in a conversation. I can sense your desire to be patient in that particular circumstance, which is wonderful, Alicia. I also am picking up that you use the repeat technique as a way to demonstrate that you are listening and the other individual is being heard. How do other respond when you do this?
I feel unimportant, but I always tried to be patience and repeat as many times as possible
